this sounds really lovesick.
not that i have ever been in love.
anyways, i was blogsurfing just now and came across a friend's blog which wasn't updated since forever till about a couple of days ago.
but yes, it was an entry about bgr. and it got my imagination running.
i was thinking:
if i had a bf, would my mother really object to it? i mean influence on studies aside, would she mind?
anyway, after the incident couple of weeks ago, i understand why she says what she says.
all that stuff about getting to know more people first and not just stick to one person.
i thought it was because she knew me well. i don't like change, not really at least. i thought it was just a load of advise.
but now i know.
yeah, so i guess she wouldn't object(depending on how you look at it), she'd probably say something like "it's your life. you do what you want." (which would hurt shitloads) but now that i know the truth about the whole situation, maybe what i think she might say is "as long as you know what you're doing" or something that wouldn't hurt as much as the previous statement.
right. now that i think about it. even if my mum didn't mind (much) i think the person who'd have a problem with (getting) a bf, would be me.
i don't know how the dating traditions go. do you go on a date with someone to get to know them better? or do you go on a date with someone because you're, for lack of a better word, dating the person, in a relationship with them? and in any case, how do you define 'dating'?
wikipedia says: Dating is any social activity performed as a pair or even a group with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as their partner in a intimate relationship or as a spouse.
but i realise that dating, in fact, is not so black-and-white. so if a couple says they wanna go on a "break", does that mean they're allowed to get to know other ppl and go on a 'date' with them, while still techinically belonging to the land of the "attached"? or are they just not meeting(read exclusively dating) each other and 'behave' as friends while still maintaing the "she's my girlfriend/he's my boyfriend" status?
what if the two parties involved have very different understandings of 'dating'? i mean one party could take it casually, and the other could take it seriously, exclusively. (ok, so this is a bit extreme, but it could happen!)
is liking (read: having a crush on) someone reason enough to date them? how exclusive is 'dating'? i guess that links back to your definition of dating.
so do you date someone you know or get to know someone you date? or do you date someone to get to know them better? (i'm a bit muddled here, dunno if i'm making sense) if it's the latter, is that casual or exclusive?
ok, so if you didn't catch what i said at all, then i'm really sorry to have wasted your time reading my blog. but if you do, even a fraction of an ounce, catch my drift. well... kudos i guess?
my worst fear is to get in too deep, and get my heart broken i guess. and maybe because i can't imagine letting someone in, i guess my idea of bgr is really intimate.
i can see why some people are hesitant about marriage.
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation
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